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I'm full of regret... From my ex's, to old friends to whom I never have contact anymore. I wish I could point them here and say "I'm sorry", but it'll never happen. I used to play a game with wonderful friends, but I got angry and ragequit most of the time. I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to cherish these moments I have with them instead of getting upset.

How am I supposed to feel? I feel bad about letting everyone I know online down. I don't really have this problem irl because I like to keep my irl and online self separate. But still, it's like an itch I can't scratch. Or an addiction I can't free myself of.

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Like that chick .Rinoa.?

Posted December 19th, 2017 by Agis
Agis
 

It's probably just best to get over it tbh.

Edited December 19th, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

Post no longer needed since I corrected the original error in the post above.

Edited December 19th, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

Whobwo you want me to get you reconciled with Owa? Kassie?

Posted December 19th, 2017 by Weid man
Weid man
 

Kendra? Ravenspirit?

Posted December 20th, 2017 by Xhin
Xhin
 

sorry to be blunt, but maybe try realizing that it doesn't matter?

as someone who has done a lot of outright cruel things to people, trust me: if there's no way of getting back in touch with the people you've wronged, the only thing you can do is hope that they're living happy, fulfilling lives. (obviously, if you do have the opportunity, you should apologize or make it up to them in some way, but if they're just gone with no hope of ever being contacted again, all you can do is work on being a better person)

it's also important to forgive yourself. the "you" of the past doesn't exist anymore; the past itself doesn't even exist anymore. there's only now and the "you" that exists now. and you need to make sure that current/future you is a better, kinder person than past you. and if that's true, if the current you is a better person, then you don't need to beat yourself up over it.

not sure if that's helpful or even applicable, but that's how i live with myself

Edited December 20th, 2017 by poptart!
poptart!
 

Wtf poptart that was much better sounding than my original post. Which I shortened because it didn't really turn out entirely like I was trying to say. I was trying to say pretty much that but do whatever it takes to get over it especially since they're out of your life.

Instead it sounded like "fuck it and fuck them" (probably because I literally said fuck it and fuck them somewhere in it) and also said something about not thinking about whose fault it is and such when I meant to say those things are often complicated and blaming yourself for it all the time and feeling bad won't help anything.

I also probably didn't put enough focus into being better. Might have been more my emotions talking. But ya that's pretty much what I meant.

Edited December 20th, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

to the people saying it dont matter, or forget about it... living w/o guilt or regret for anything you do isnt an admirable trait, js. its natureal to feel regret and human it would be odd if you didnt feel regret

Edited December 21st, 2017 by Brandy
Brandy

Ya just suffer forever and blame yourself for something that may well not even be your fault or was partially justified. Great idea. Did you really just not understand what was being said and why?

Edited December 21st, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

How the fuck is just beating yourself up at all times an admirable trait either huh? I'd like you to explain that one. How does it solve anything if it has no purpose left? True, people may be impulsive creatures and it may be hard or impossible not to but give me one good reason someone should wallow in their suffering for no reason at all if they can help it?

Edited December 21st, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

i was refering to you saying
do whatever it takes to get over it especially since they're out of your life.

and what pop said

the past doesn't exist anymore; the past itself doesn't even exist anymore

what you both said which sounded like bad advice to me because if you think that way, you can do bad things to a person and not think about the implications it has further down in life, even if they are out of your life. and the past does exist proof is history repeats itself because of the mistakes we made in the past. it just sounded selfish to me, but i am sure you understand the importantance of guilt in your own way.

How the fuck is just beating yourself up at all times an admirable trait either huh?

i woulndt call it beating your self up. i would call it caring about how you affected other people in the past and correcting it if you can.. it's called altruism.


Edited December 21st, 2017 by Brandy
Brandy

Ya, if you want to read it completely the wrong way it can sound like that. At some point you have to get over it. That's all I was saying. So unless you want to say that people should always beat themselves up over it there is no argument to had over it.

Posted December 21st, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

i woulndt call it beating your self up. i would call it caring about how you affected other people in the past and correcting it if you can.. it's called altruism.


ONCE AGAIN you don't understand what's actually being said. Don't act like I don't know what altruism is either. Are you trolling me right now or something? Because it sure seems like it.

You can care without beating yourself up for it. And eventually you can let go of it entirely. People move on. THAT is very human as well.

But you know what else is very human? A lot of terrible things. Maybe you should be feeling a little guilt yourself for acting like I don't know what altruism is and thus implying I don't have any at all. That can be harmful too you know?

Or you know, you could actually get over it at some point. Get it?

Posted December 21st, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

Maybe you should be feeling a little guilt yourself for acting like I don't know what altruism is and thus implying I don't have any at all.

no am not trying to talk down to you. sorry if u took the last part of the setence that way. but you have a point too. i am just giving owa a different pov. but if i misunderstand you then am sorry

But you know what else is very human? A lot of terrible things.

yes i agree 100%

Edited December 21st, 2017 by Brandy
Brandy

i am just giving owa a different pov.


I hope so. Fair enough I suppose.

Posted December 21st, 2017 by KnokkelMillennium
KnokkelMillennium

That post from Poptart is probably the most mature and greatest post anyone has ever written about anything on this site. It needs to be framed.

I was going to post an episode of MLP. Seriously. It's called "Amending Fences" and deals with this issue exactly.

Posted December 22nd, 2017 by mariomguy
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