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I'm sorry if this seems a little out of left field. You and I haven't personally interacted much, when I think about it. I wanted to say something though, in case we all die this evening. Sometimes it's easy to see the human race as this dark thing that I just want to escape. In those times I try to counteract the feeling by thinking about people who've shown otherwise. It's a pretty selective list of people. But you've definitely been one of them for a while now. So... thank you? Thank you. Your calm quiet selflessness inspires me.

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Sometimes it's easy to see the human race as this dark thing that I just want to escape


Don't worry, you definitely aren't alone in feeling this way. Even if some people don't want to admit they feel that way. But I think accepting there is more to people than that is the way to go rather than idealizing people because that just sets you up even more to have your hopes crushed when they ruin your expectations too at some point. Sorry but it felt like it should be said. People are flawed and that isn't going to change. Rolling with the punches is just something you have to do often times. It's very rare to find a person that you truly know well and they never actually fuck things up and people act differently in different settings for different reasons. I just have to accept that though. As long as enough good can be found and it's not too personally bothersome or something like that it doesn't matter what you know about that person. That's probably how I prevent myself from ending up in the abyss of hopelessness again: the things I'm willing to overlook in order to see the good in the person otherwise.

But that's probably how you should see it. People will have good and bad traits. Because with most people even if they seem awful to you and those around you as far as you can see there is something more in them as well. No matter what they've done there is still probably something better within them too. It's just something you have to deal with and decide what is worth putting up with.

Edited September 30th by KnokkelMillennium

Sometimes it's easy to see the human race as this dark thing that I just want to escape.


I'm not vandy, but I just want to say I feel you here a lot. If you ever need to reach out, I've gone through a lot of this (some of it pretty recent) so my pm inbox and/or Xhin23@gmail.com are open.

Posted September 30th by Xhin
Xhin
Fractal icious

People are flawed and that isn't going to change.


I don't even think *people* are flawed anymore, it's our mental conception of things that is flawed. Reality isn't composed of platonic solids and perfect fractals, it's messy.

To add to this, it does defintely help with depression if you can keep it in mind that your mind doesn't see or understand everything perfectly. It seems like the more creative you are the worse this is and the worse your depression will be. When the world feels dark and unfeeling, much of that is an illusion caused by your flawed brain.

Posted September 30th by Xhin
Xhin
Fractal icious

I'm sorry if this seems a little out of left field.


Sometimes the best things are out of the blue. Gifts "just because" are always more fun than when gifts are expected. Same with compliments and statements of appreciation. So, no need to apologize. I appreciate your kind words. Sometimes I feel like I'm maybe too standoffish (on this website and in real life).

Over the past two years or so you have become one of my favorite people on the site. You seem very kind and knowledgeable of psychology from what I've seen. You also seem to have a strong desire to make this website a better place. Do you use any chat services? I certainly wouldn't mind becoming better friends.

Posted September 30th by Vandy

@Knuckles -- Thank you for your insights and wisdoms. I do have enough common sense not to fall prey to what you are suggesting. But I appreciate the advice nonetheless.

@Xhin -- Thank you for the offer. I am doing alright though.
[...] an illusion caused by your flawed brain.

This is very correct, and I think it's impressive you came to this realization on your own (maybe just because I'm too unaware to ever have done so myself). In psychological terms it's called cognitive error (or cognitive distortion). I wrote my undergrad thesis (yeah that's a real thing) on it if you want me to elaborate. (Well, it and how it relates to a bunch of other stuff, especially in abuse victims).

@Vandy -- Thanks so much for your thoughtful response. It means a lot.
Sometimes I feel like I'm maybe too standoffish (on this website and in real life).

You just show you care via your actions instead of being openly affectionate with your words. I've seen it before, and it can often go overlooked. But I admire what you've done (or have been willing to do) to help and support members of our GTX0 family. You're consistently there for people, volunteering your time and energy.
Over the past two years or so you have become one of my favorite people on the site. You seem very kind and knowledgeable of psychology from what I've seen. You also seem to have a strong desire to make this website a better place.

Thank you. :) I'm humbled to hear my appreciation for you is in any way mutual. Your compliments mean a lot to me.
Do you use any chat services? I certainly wouldn't mind becoming better friends.

Certainly!
Skype is jakob.austin2
Discord is Cetasaurus#2389
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I have to warn I can be exceptionally bad at replying with any consistency. Please don't take it personally.

Posted October 1st by Cetasaurus
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Formerly KM8

Ya not saying you don't but I felt like it should be said anyway for some reason. I guess because it can just sort of happen sometimes even if a person is aware. But you're welcome.

Edited October 1st by KnokkelMillennium

Okay I sent you a skype request. I may need to talk through some stuff when you have some time if that is okay.

Posted October 7th by Vandy
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