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Posted: Posted September 9th
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...waiting for all the reasons I"m supposed to love/embrace change.




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Me knowing that change is coming and that it's not ready for me.



Posted September 9th by Canary Yellow
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That means nothing to me because I don't see an ything "good" about it. What's so "good" about being screwed over and abandoned? Like I said still waiting for all these "good" things that are suppsoed to make it all worth it. You just look like you're embracing it like one of its worshipers. and every time I try to fight it rather than embrace it like a good litotl3e sheep I get chastised for it. Tell me one good result I get out of your response that y ou can measure and demonstrate.

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I don't think it's good because I embrace it for what it is. I think it's good because I can make changes that are good.

My life has been changing rapidly over the last year. And I have done the work to use these things as opportunities instead of locking in to the idea that they are tragedies or losses.

Tell me one good result I get out of your response that y ou can measure and demonstrate.


I'm not going to go into specifics, both because there are private details that I don't want on the web but also because you don't need to know, but I've done the work to get on top of a couple of terrible situations and now I'm getting paid well for my efforts.

Posted September 9th by Canary Yellow
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Well I've neve rbeen able tod o that. any change "I" make is one I'm forced to make. It may work for neurotypicals but it's never worked for me.

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neurotypicals


Let's not cheapen this discussion by trying to reduce it to assumptions about what one theoretical kind of person could or couldn't do. I know that it's a very attractive way to distance yourself from the problem, but buying into arbitrary behavioral divisions is not the most helpful or relevant thing. You also say this without the benefit of knowing if I am, in fact, neurotypical.

Posted September 9th by Canary Yellow
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sure as hell seems like the standard NT shit. Same old change worship. By all means though tell me what desirable change to make and exactly how to do it. The re is no form of change that I can think of that gives me any sense of control because I'm always doing it becuase i"m being coaxed to. Every effort I make to fight or resist or undo it is met with rebuke and scorn. Just for once can someone be on my side instead of on changes side. I am certainly not interested in being forced in to a "new life". I"m not even really sure if your response is meant to tell me anything. Is it supposed to give me something to go off of or work with? I see no opportunists from the changes imposed on m y life.


Also, think I"m having a meltdown
https://youtu.be/OThLUf1UgNg

Edited September 9th by tnu
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If you'd asked me when I was a teenager whether I thought change was good or bad, I would've said bad.

You would've had me on your side about 14 years ago in this debate.

Problem is, life goes on. Life keeps moving. Shit happens and when it does, you can curl into a ball and say you're fucked or you can acknowledge that whatever happened isn't the end of the world, regardless of how heartbreaking it was.

I know this doesn't help you much, tnu, but it's kind of the general life perception people acquire from going through things and recovering from them as they enter adulthood - not holding on to old grief because there are more important things in life than holding on to things that hurt you so much you'd be better off without them.

That's the general life perspective most adults acquire in their late teens/early twenties.

Edited September 9th by Weird Occurance
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As I said before, if you want even a chance at things getting better the first step is to be open to change in the first place. It's up to you though.


Edited September 9th by Grey Echelon
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and what bene fit d o I get form being "open" to it. what beenfit do I get from embracing these negative changes? I've prett y much given up on try ing to gain anything int he future because I don't trhink it will pan out for me at all.

Edited September 9th by tnu
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