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So, last week I hung out with a guy for the first time. Being the first time, this was not a date, just a platonic hang to see how we clicked. It was a decently enjoyable day and we defiantly clicked as friends. Platonically, the emotional connection was there. This week, we were to hang again in a more romantic way in the hopes that more of a spark developed. However, since our first inital hang, I just got the vibe that he was into me more then I was into him. How he texted me, making future plans with me, can't wait to see me, etc. Meanwhile, I know myself well enough to know how I felt in the past with other guys and that "spark" which lead me to inform him that I didn't believe a second hang would form that. A true connection to me, should just happen. You shouldn't have to think of it nor should you try to make it forced or artificial. The fact that it never just came to me like it has in the past was a big red flag. That no matter how awesome a person is, you either feel feelings and connect or you don't. What about you guys? What stories do you have to tell of wishing to feel that spark but didn't (and why?) How long does it usually take you to feel that certain spark?

Memories are nice, but that's all they are.
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From a guy's POV, he wants you. If you want to take it slow you better tell him so, otherwise he will stay on your case forever trying to impress you.

The "spark" only happened once in my life. I met this girl when I was a cashier. She had this certain personality that just seemed to perfectly mesh with mine. It was very short, but to everyone in earsight it's like we were made for each other. Nothing ever came of it. And on the other hand, many of my best friends and relationships started off very awkward with no spark at all, but over time we grew together and found things in common.

If you clicked as friends, keep that going! But remember both of you have to work together to make it a relationship that works: the magic spark/magnetic force that forever binds two people into an eternal bliss and everlasting love is an impossible thing. If you love him, love him. If you don't, don't. But don't live your life expecting a Prince Charming that may never come!

Posted May 1st by mariomguy

I'm not naive to love - Anyone waiting for basically a romantic movie is only in denial. However, as I stated, I personally know when I feel that spark. It's not something I have to wonder or think about or keep trying for, I just know. Unfortunately, he didn't take it very well and stated "I was so not his type" even though he was interested to see where it could go. I personally feel I made the right choice, it just sucks when you truly try and want that connection to happen, but you just don't feel anything, ya know?

Edited May 1st by Cyrus
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I hope you let him off easy. Being honest is the way to go, but don't be brutal.

Posted May 1st by mariomguy
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